I noticed this in some profiling. Basically, we prune the ratelimiters
by copying and iterating over every entry every 60 seconds. Instead,
let's use a wheel timer to track when we should potentially prune a
given key, and then we a) check fewer keys, and b) can run more
frequently. Hopefully this should mean we don't have a large pause
everytime we prune a ratelimiter with lots of keys.
Also fixes a bug where we didn't prune entries that were added via
`record_action` and never subsequently updated. This affected the media
and joins-per-room ratelimiter.
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