Refactor Gauge metrics to be homeserver-scoped (#18725)

Bulk refactor `Gauge` metrics to be homeserver-scoped. We also add lints
to make sure that new `Gauge` metrics don't sneak in without using the
`server_name` label (`SERVER_NAME_LABEL`).

Part of https://github.com/element-hq/synapse/issues/18592



### Testing strategy

 1. Add the `metrics` listener in your `homeserver.yaml`
    ```yaml
    listeners:
      # This is just showing how to configure metrics either way
      #
      # `http` `metrics` resource
      - port: 9322
        type: http
        bind_addresses: ['127.0.0.1']
        resources:
          - names: [metrics]
            compress: false
      # `metrics` listener
      - port: 9323
        type: metrics
        bind_addresses: ['127.0.0.1']
    ```
1. Start the homeserver: `poetry run synapse_homeserver --config-path
homeserver.yaml`
1. Fetch `http://localhost:9322/_synapse/metrics` and/or
`http://localhost:9323/metrics`
1. Observe response includes the TODO metrics with the `server_name`
label

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contrib/grafana/synapse.json

@@ -4396,7 +4396,7 @@
               "exemplar": false,
               "expr": "(time() - max without (job, index, host) (avg_over_time(synapse_federation_last_received_pdu_time[10m]))) / 60",
               "instant": false,
-              "legendFormat": "{{server_name}} ",
+              "legendFormat": "{{origin_server_name}} ",
               "range": true,
               "refId": "A"
             }
@@ -4518,7 +4518,7 @@
               "exemplar": false,
               "expr": "(time() - max without (job, index, host) (avg_over_time(synapse_federation_last_sent_pdu_time[10m]))) / 60",
               "instant": false,
-              "legendFormat": "{{server_name}}",
+              "legendFormat": "{{destination_server_name}}",
               "range": true,
               "refId": "A"
             }