Improve Depends specs in debian package. (#5675)

This is basically a contrived way of adding a `Recommends` on `libpq5`, to fix #5653.

The way this is supposed to happen in debhelper is to run
`dh_shlibdeps`, which in turn runs `dpkg-shlibdeps`, which spits things out
into `debian/<package>.substvars` whence they can later be included by
`control`.

Previously, we had disabled `dh_shlibdeps`, mostly because `dpkg-shlibdeps`
gets confused about PIL's interdependent objects, but that's not really the
right thing to do and there is another way to work around that.

Since we don't always use postgres, we don't necessarily want a hard Depends on
libpq5, so I've actually ended up adding an explicit invocation of
`dpkg-shlibdeps` for `psycopg2`.

I've also updated the build-depends list for the package, which was missing a
couple of entries.

debian/control

@@ -2,16 +2,20 @@ Source: matrix-synapse-py3
 Section: contrib/python
 Priority: extra
 Maintainer: Synapse Packaging team <packages@matrix.org>
+# keep this list in sync with the build dependencies in docker/Dockerfile-dhvirtualenv.
 Build-Depends:
  debhelper (>= 9),
  dh-systemd,
  dh-virtualenv (>= 1.1),
+ libsystemd-dev,
+ libpq-dev,
  lsb-release,
  python3-dev,
  python3,
  python3-setuptools,
  python3-pip,
  python3-venv,
+ libsqlite3-dev,
  tar,
 Standards-Version: 3.9.8
 Homepage: https://github.com/matrix-org/synapse
@@ -28,9 +32,12 @@ Depends:
  debconf,
  python3-distutils|libpython3-stdlib (<< 3.6),
  ${misc:Depends},
+ ${shlibs:Depends},
  ${synapse:pydepends},
 # some of our scripts use perl, but none of them are important,
 # so we put perl:Depends in Suggests rather than Depends.
+Recommends:
+ ${shlibs1:Recommends},
 Suggests:
  sqlite3,
  ${perl:Depends},